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Bi-X - Two Girls Part II
(on the dichotomy of Women and sexuality)

A regional band, Paranoid Social Club (http://www.pscmusic.com/), sings a song called "Two Gilrs." It is really a great song about a guy who is saying the woman he is with means so much to him -- fills so many roles for him -- that if she were to leave him he would need two women, two girls, to make up for her.

A portion of the lyrics:

One that I can love
To have and to hold
One for at the club
One back at the home
I need a girl that's clean
To bring home to my mom
And one thats got legs that
Are open and long
One that thinks I'm right
One knows that I'm wrong
One that always fights
And throws my clothes on the lawn
One that does laundry
And cooks food in the kitchen
One that says she's sorry
And one just doesn't listen
This girl wears make-up
And that girl's plain
This girl is great
But that girl's insane
One lives in a house
With a white pickett fence
The other, high heels
And a tight mini dress
One wants a lady killer
And one's dead
One wants to get all
Up in my head
One minds her business
Cause she's self-employed
One's independent
One needs help from a boy
One sees potential in a man
When he's broke
The other one's still thinking
That this band is a joke
One hits the road
Like the second you cum
The other one you wake up
When your breakfast is done
One that gets jealous
When I try to be free
One that's with the fellas
Everytime that I leave
This girl's romantic
But that girl is nasty
This girl's a tramp
But then that girl's so classy
One speaks french
And the language of love
The other's bangin on me
Like an African drum

I need two girls
If I can't have you

Any woman can look at this list and decide it is impossible to live up to the expectation of being these "two girls." Of course, how likely is it that one man could find all these quantities in two different women if he cannot find them in one?

As women, to be successful and attractive we must be bad and we must be good. We have to make life a living hell for the men in our lives and keep them believing we are heaven. We have to dress sluttly but classy, do the chores, be bitches and speak many languages.

And most women and men take this song at face value and truly believe this is the way people and relationships are supposed to be.

But they are wrong.

I could go on and on. I could write for pages about the same topic that many feminists have spouted on about for many years - that bad girl/good woman thing.

The fact is, it is not that hard to do this. It is about believing in yourself and having self-confidence. It is about trusting a relationship so much that you can be all things to that relationship.

There are times we should be bad. There are times we should be good. If we can trust our partners enough to enjoy us being both those things at the appropriate time, we can be two girls - or really, one amazing woman.

Ask your partner, some day, to list the qualities he or she wants in you. You can never be all those things at the same time. But in the right time and place, we can be every woman. It is a joy to realize, when I sit down to write, to know that I am not so thin and without substance that I could be written about in a book. I am way to complex to be defined in the lyrics of a song. I do hope I am the "two girls" PSC sings about.

© 2004 Dale H. West. All rights reserved.