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Bi - X and Why I'm writing about it...

The name comes from a typo in some e-mails between me and an editor who wanted me to write a "rant" about "coming out" as a bisexual and what that meant for me in my art. The title seemed perfect, as you'll read when I write about being bisexual, rebelling against the suffix "curious" for the shortened "bi" and being in my 30's.

I never wrote the piece. Not because I don't have a lot to say about being bisexual, and not because I don't realize how helpful it can be to read others' thoughts about orientation and sex and relationships. It was more because I'm not much of a ranter and I'm not really sure what she meant by "coming out." To many I know, that is not something I have done.

The ability to apply labels and names to myself has just come with age and acceptance. When I think about it, I have always been bisexual - but there was a time I was too young, unread and unsocialized to "know" that. I have also always been Poly - but I have never practiced that. So, in many ways, I'm a confused anomoly of paradoxes. Not to me, I'm not confused - but how do you rant about contradictions?

Being a reader, I have appreciated other women who have written and published ideas I associate with like bisexuality, polyamory and group sex freely and personally. Their words are not mine and their situations are not mine. But their courage to post about "ordinary" things on-line makes our world a better place.

As I write, I find there are women who want to read my words and about my situations. I'm honored. Presented here are musings as I get around to putting them in HTML.

February 2004 - Not the Happy Curious (on being married, monogamous and bi)
July 2004 - Two Girls - Part I (on the Male-Female-Female myth)
July 2004 - The Collector (on Why I Write Erotica)
September 2004 - Two Girls - Part II (on the dichotomy of being a sexual female)
January 2005 - The Unintended Garden (Guest writer, Ann Mrowicki, reflects on the path her life has led to her new, real yet metaphorical, garden.)
June 2005 - The Ifs, Ands, and Buts of Regret (Or why sex and regret don't mix)